There was a second box of Christmas cards in my dad’s attic.
Twenty-two of them, signed “Love, Dad.” NOT ONE to us.
The mailing address was eleven miles from our house.
Dad went into memory care in February, and the house had to be emptied by the end of the month or the bank took it.
Four of us grew up in that place. I’m the oldest, so the sorting fell to me.
“Danielle, the dumpster comes Friday,” my brother Brandon said, and then he left for work and didn’t come back.
So it was me, forty years of boxes, and a bowling trophy engraved GARY NOVACK, spelled wrong.
The cards were rubber-banded in a shoebox behind the insulation.
Every one addressed to a Sandra Kovacic on Bergen Road.
I figured it was an aunt nobody talked about. I put them in my purse and kept going.
That night I typed the address into my phone.
The house came up on Zillow. Sold in 1993. Buyer: Gary L. Novack.
My dad bought a house eleven miles away the year I turned three.
Then I went through the bank statements I’d already been sorting for the nursing home. Six hundred dollars, the first of every month, for as long as the online records went back.
I searched Sandra Kovacic on Facebook at one in the morning.
Her profile picture wasn’t her.
It was a woman with my face. My chin, my crooked front tooth, the one my mother never fixed.
I drove out there on a Tuesday with the shoebox on the passenger seat.
She opened the door before I knocked, like she’d been watching the driveway.
“You’re Danielle,” she said.
Everything in my body went quiet.
Her hair was gray at the front. She had lines around her mouth that I don’t have yet.
She was TWO YEARS OLDER THAN ME.
She stepped back and let the door swing open, and the wall behind her was covered in photographs of my family. My mother. Our kitchen. My wedding.
“Your mom called me every Sunday for nineteen years,” she said. “She’s the one who told me to stay away, and you need to hear why.”
What I Did Before I Could Speak
I stood in that doorway for what felt like a long time.
Her name was Carol. Not Sandra. Carol Novack, which she said with a small flat emphasis, like she’d been practicing how to say it to me specifically. Sandra was her mother. Sandra Kovacic, who’d been dead since 2009, whose name was still on the water bill when Carol bought the house off her estate.
Carol was forty-five. I’m forty-three. Do the math, I did, standing right there in her doorway, and the math is ugly.
She had a kettle on. The kitchen smelled like burnt toast and dish soap, and there was a cat on the counter that she didn’t move. I sat down at her table because she pointed at a chair and I sat, and that’s the honest truth of it. I didn’t decide anything. My legs just stopped.
She put a mug in front of me. I didn’t drink it.
The wall of photographs was visible from where I sat. I could see my own wedding photo, the one from the reception where my dad is dancing with me and he’s laughing with his head thrown back. I have that photo framed in my hallway. I’ve had it for eighteen years.
She had a copy.
“Where did you get that,” I said.
“He brought it,” she said. “He brought all of them.”
What My Father Was Doing Every Third Sunday
He golfed. That’s what we thought. Every third Sunday, rain or shine, Gary Novack was golfing with the guys from the plant. He had the bag, the shoes, the whole thing. He’d come home sunburned sometimes. He smelled like beer.
Carol said she doesn’t know anything about golf.
She said he came on Sundays, mostly. Sometimes a Saturday. He missed Christmas twice in her whole life, and both times he called. She said the calls were short and he talked quietly and she could always hear a TV in the background, and she knew what that meant even when she was little, even before she had words for what it meant.
She grew up knowing about us. She knew my mother’s name. She knew Brandon and she knew my sisters, Pam and Renee. She knew we lived on Calloway Street. She said she used to think about our street like it was a place in a story, not a real place. Eleven miles away but completely made up.
Her mother, Sandra, had worked with my dad at the plant. 1976, 1977, somewhere in there. Carol was born in 1978. My dad was already married. I was already one year old.
He bought Sandra the house in 1993, when I was three, which means he’d been driving back and forth for at least fifteen years before he put a deed in his name. And then he kept driving for another thirty years after that, every third Sunday, right up until his license got pulled two years ago when the dementia got bad enough to make it dangerous.
Thirty-something years. Every third Sunday.
I thought about the golf bag in the garage. I don’t know if there are clubs in it. I never looked.
The Part About My Mother
This is the part I keep coming back to.
Carol said my mother called her the first time in 2001. Carol was twenty-three. My mother was fifty-one, and she had found something, Carol didn’t know what, a phone number or a receipt or something in a coat pocket, and she had tracked down the Bergen Road address and called the house.
Sandra answered. My mother asked to speak to the daughter.
Carol got on the phone expecting she didn’t know what. A screaming woman. Threats. She said she was sitting on the kitchen floor with her back against the cabinets, bracing.
My mother said: “I know this isn’t your fault. I want you to know that I know that.”
That was the first thing she said.
Carol cried telling me this. First time her face changed at all, and it changed fast, and she put her hand up like she needed a second. I waited. The cat knocked something off the counter and neither of us looked.
My mother called every Sunday for nineteen years. Not to talk about my dad, Carol said. Not mostly. They talked about Carol’s job, which was dental hygiene, and about a guy Carol dated for four years who Carol thought was going to propose and didn’t. My mother apparently had opinions about that. They talked about my mother’s garden. They talked about my sisters’ kids.
My mother never told any of us. Not Brandon, not Pam, not Renee.
She told Carol everything, but she never told us.
Carol said: “She told me to stay away from all of you until she was gone. She said it wasn’t fair to make you carry it while she was still here. She said after she died, if I wanted to reach out, that was my choice.”
My mother died in 2019. Pancreatic cancer, fast and ugly. Seven weeks from diagnosis to the end.
Carol said she sat on it for five years. Wrote a letter twice and didn’t send it. Figured we’d never know, figured it was cleaner that way. Then my dad went into memory care and somebody, a neighbor probably, put it on Facebook, and Carol saw it and knew the house would be emptied and the shoebox would come up and she just.
She just waited.
She said she left the shoebox where it was because she didn’t know how else to do it.
The Photographs I Couldn’t Stop Looking At
My dad looked young in most of them. There was one of him holding a baby, and the baby was Carol, and he was grinning the same grin he had in every photo from my childhood, the one where his eyes go small and his whole face gets involved. I know that grin. I have a version of it. Brandon has the full thing.
Carol has it too. I didn’t want to notice that but I noticed it.
There were photos of Carol’s birthday parties, a few of them. A school play. One where she’s maybe sixteen, standing next to my dad at what looks like a picnic, and he has his arm around her and he looks tired but happy, and I have never seen that photo in my life and I have spent forty-three years in the same family as that man.
I asked her if she ever came to find us on her own. Before my mother called. Before any of this.
She said once, when she was seventeen, she drove to Calloway Street and sat in her car across from the house. She said she watched the lights come on in the front room and she watched a girl come to the window, and she thought it was me but she wasn’t sure, and she sat there until it got dark and then she drove home.
I was seventeen in 1998. I used to sit in the front room and do homework because the light was better there.
It might have been me.
What I Did With the Shoebox
I left it with her. I don’t know exactly why. It felt like it belonged there more than in a dumpster, more than in my trunk, more than anywhere I could think of.
She walked me out to the driveway. It was cold, a gray Tuesday in February, and the street was quiet except for a dog barking somewhere. She was wearing a cardigan that was too thin for the weather and she crossed her arms over herself.
I asked if she wanted to come see him. Our dad. Her dad. I don’t know what word to use.
She said she didn’t know.
I said that was fair.
She said she’d been to the memory care website. She’d looked at the visiting hours. She said she didn’t know if he would know her, at this point, and she didn’t know if that made it better or worse.
I told her it was probably worse. He knows shapes of things. Feelings. He doesn’t always know names. He held my hand last week for forty minutes and called me Sandra the whole time, and I let him, because what else do you do.
Her face did something when I said that name.
I didn’t explain it. I just said I’d call her.
I drove home with the passenger seat empty and the heat up too high and I thought about my mother in her kitchen on Sunday mornings, waiting for my dad to leave for his golf game so she could pick up the phone.
Nineteen years of Sundays.
She never said a word to me. She never said a word to any of us.
I don’t know if I’m angry at her or if I’m something else. I keep starting that sentence and not finishing it. My mother was the most practical woman I have ever known. She made decisions and she lived inside them and she did not ask anyone to feel sorry for her. She called the other woman’s daughter every week for nineteen years and she made sure that girl knew she wasn’t invisible.
I think that was my mother’s version of handling it.
I don’t know what my version is yet.
Brandon called on Thursday to ask if I’d found anything important in the attic.
“Not really,” I said. “Some old stuff.”
He said okay and we talked about the dumpster schedule.
I haven’t told him. I haven’t told any of them. I’ve got Carol’s number in my phone and a photo she texted me of my dad holding her as a baby, and I keep opening it and closing it and not knowing what I’m supposed to do with the fact that he’s grinning like that, like he was happy, like he was just a regular happy man with a baby in his arms.
He looked exactly like Brandon.
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